It was just a matter of time.

The other day the Little Man announced that he wants to see his Daddy. Yikes!

He and his Daddy haven't seen eachother in almost 9 months, they talk on the phone periodically, but the last time they saw eachother - Daddy was in the hospital. The Little Man goes through phases where he wants nothing to do with him, won't talk to him or even talk about him, and now - he wants to see him (actually - he wants to take him to the zoo...you can come to your own conclusions on that one, LOL).

We were eating dinner two nights ago and the Little Man was playing with some Hot Wheels that Daddy gave him for his birthday. Out of the blue it happened, no warning, no prepared speech from me. "I want to take Daddy to the zoo." The kicker is that he wants to go just the two of them, that is a scenario that will not be happening, not now, not ever. It's a package deal, my dear - you do not get your Daddy all to yourself, just not gonna happen.

Now that the divorce is final, visitation can happen, and is supposed to happen, though there are some stipulations. The Little Man has to want it on his own, without prompting from anyone else. The Little Man's therapist needs to be aware, and seeing him (or me) to help through any issues that may arise. And most importantly - Daddy needs to be seeing HIS therapist. Seems as though most of the puzzle is complete - with the exception of Daddy who not only isn't seeing a therapist, but doesn't currently have a therapist!

It pretty much bites. The Little Man is ready, after nine months is able to vocalize that he wants his Daddy, but...his Daddy isn't ready, or able, to meet those desires. Daddy knows that the Little Man wants to see him, maybe that will be enough to kick his butt in gear, who knows. He deserves to see his Daddy, as long as his Daddy is doing what he can to get himself healthy.

I'm sorry Little Man. I wish I could wave my magic wand and all your dreams would be answered. Looks, though, like you need to wait just a little bit longer for this one.